I let something slip the other day when we spoke, and it needs to be made right.
We were talking about body image, and the ways we are perceived by the world. In that conversation, you described yourself as being neither "fat" nor "not-fat", but as something in between. We had an interesting dialogue about beauty and privilege and how in some ways you have the best of both worlds, and in some ways the worst...
I spoke about that with you, and I used the same language and concepts that you started the conversation with; about you being both "fat" and "not-fat". But please be clear: I don't see you through that lens, or assess you on those terms. All my adult life, I have said this: It is not our bodies that make us beautiful, but what we do with them. The depth of your ethical viewpoint and your self-development capacity is infinitely more important to me than the size of your tits (or arse, or whatever).
I know you ultimately have exactly the same world-view, and deep down you measure yourself against your character rather than an external and manufactured idea of beauty. I know that you are only submitting to those concepts, momentarily, because of the industry you are in and the clients you feel you need to appeal to. I totally respect that, and I'll always be happy to have conversations about that with you in whatever language makes sense, but I don't want it to be assumed that I share that same version of reality. :)
I love you.